Growing through grief …

One of the biggest lessons that I learned in my adult life is how to grow through grief. It started with loved ones transitioning, and me feeling as though I was somehow responsible for them. It took them transitioning for me to realize that it is God’s will and God’s way. Oh, how I do miss them here on earth, but if you think about it people that leave us are always still here in someway, shape, or form. As long as you have your memories, pictures, and people loved ones are never really gone.

Through my experience in life grief is not only for death. Life has taught me that grief is also for any type of situation or circumstance that you have to leave or dismiss yourself, meaning relationships. Let me recall my last relationship… when I am honest with myself I started leaving that relationship maybe two years before it was actually over. I was wise enough to understand that I was grieving the relationship while still being attached to the relationship. I knew that I did everything that I was supposed to do to hold up my end of the relationship and it no longer was making me or us happy. It took my heart a little time to catch up with my head I work through each stage. Honestly, I went through all five stages, and grow through the process.

Grieving is giving the giving the heart time to catch up with the mind. No one can give you a timeframe or tell you how it looks. What they should do is “hold space for you”. They can let you know that they are just there to be whatever you need. Take your time and grow through the process.

Remember you awake with two constants daily a Chance in a Choice, so why not take a chance and choose you!