How are you doing?

We have all heard the saying “Check on the strong friend.” Well, that saying is true. There have been many times in my experiences that I could’ve used a phone call, a text message, or a simple “hi how are you.” I could’ve been in a better place had someone just felt the need to check on me. I have always found myself to be the one that is called on to assist, (even though I was not bothered),I still have my days that I have my own stuff.

Check on that strong friend when you realize that they’re not as talkative or seen as much. When that strong friend tends to drift off or become scarce, little do you know that strong friend maybe overwhelmed. That strong friend may be the friend that does not want to say no. That friend maybe the one that does not know how to say no or set boundaries. For whatever the reason check on that person that you see regularly. It could be that family member that had the most family functions. It could be the family member that checks up on everybody else and then stops. Check on that person that you no longer here laughing. Check on that person that you know would’ve been there. Check on the Strong Friend!

We are all going through things in this world. This life can be hard on any of us, but when are the strongest person you want everybody else to be good. In my experience I didn’t know to ask for help. I didn’t understand that anybody cared enough because nobody checked on me. I felt as though they felt that I was OK. I didn’t have any problems. My life was good and everything was moving with perfect precision; but little do they know I was alone and could not figure out why. I felt that I had to keep going because I had four children depending on me. We lost a few close loved ones and I still had to make life happen. I couldn’t grief because everybody else was grieving around me. I kept telling myself it was not my time. I had one family member and his spouse to realize that I stopped showing up and they checked on me. That reminded me that I didn’t have to take it all on alone. They gave me hope that I mattered to somebody and that I need out get out of this rut. To them I am forever grateful.

If you ever need somebody and you don’t know where to go let me know. I’m here to check on you.

Remember you awake with two constants daily a Chance in a Choice, so why not take a chance and choose you!